Untitled...3 I think...
03.28.08 (5:23 am) [edit]
This is my blog. I have my opinions some of which may be wrong.Some of which may be right. Some which just need to be thought upon. Maybe people come by here read a post respond without taking time to think and never come back. That's their choice. I just felt like saying that before doing my actual blog post.
I noticed the past few days that out of all the people I have been asking for help there have been some interesting correlations...
People that were not willing to spend time helping me but instead criticizing me or helping me in ways that really weren't helpfull in the long run were also the ones who thought that adoption was a good idea...
The ones the few who have tried to help are the ones who are less open to the idea of adoption at least in my case.... This doesn't neccesarily mean anything just an observation.
Something else I was thinking on was how a lot of people were telling me I shoulden't expect anyone to help me. Meaning they weren't obligated and they had their own things to look after etc... Specifically I would be mentioning christians and how I wasen't getting help with housing. And in return people on the net and people I talked to would say they didn't have to help me... I can't believe I heard this coming out of peoples mouths...Crhistians mouths...Did jesus not help certain people becuase they may have been a danger to him or his followers? Didn't jesus say "Love God, love others,love yourself...? Doesn't loving others mean helping them? Not treating them like all the other organizations have and just pass them onto the next person?
Seriously I have felt like a leper the past few months. The way people have dealt with me talked to me has made me feel like an outcast abd made me feel worht little to nothing.Now you can say maybe I was approaching them rudley or whatever that I needed a better attitude a different apporach... Maybe the people turing me away need a new attitude. Don't you realize by not helping people whom you think have a 'bad attitude' could result in you yourself not receiving help in the future from them if needed?
In the future if someone asks me for help but I don't like the way they are asking or am somewhat leary about them can I say to them"I'm not obligated to help you?"
Would that be right? Would that be fair? Would that be something I would do? No I don't think it would be. If I can help people and am asked for help I do help in whatever way I can. Even if it may set me back a bit...
That's it for now I think. Just felt like typing a bit of my thoughts of the past few days.
posted by: Barnabus1 (reply)
post date: 03.28.08 (12:26 pm)
I agree with you, we are obligated to help...if we can! Perhaps some of the people were burdened with huge problems of their own, and couldn't handle any more! Perhaps they in a financial bind themselves, and afraid you'll want money!! Have to give them the benefit of the doubt! I'm sure there are reasons, that they would not want to have to explain! As Christians, we are OBLIGATED!!!
posted by: Barnabus1 (reply)
post date: 03.28.08 (12:29 pm)
I'd like to send you a thing I worte, called Interruptions...will send Tmail..a bit long..but not bad!!
posted by: James (reply)
post date: 03.28.08 (7:49 pm)
Hi Jen, yeah it's 3DF...
Many people are only superficially religious these days, not wholeheartedly taking on board what it stands for, they just claim to be a part of that certain group to seem like they care about God and helping people etc. But when properly faced with problems like yours for example, will back out and keep with the life they want to live in fear of having to carry an extra burden, leaving their religious morals and obligations behind.
I don't know too much about what's happening, but I do religious studies in school, and that;s what the textbook alluded to in part of it. Hope this could help you understand maybe why this is happening, or I may be completely wrong. If you think so, just disregard it
posted by: funkadelichika (reply)
post date: 03.28.08 (11:42 pm)
Reply to: Barnabus1
I understand that sometimes people truly do have other things going on and can't help. However when I contacted a whole church talked to a pastor and got passed on was when I started getting pissed. Unless he knows that his whole congregation is poor destitute and unable to help he did a pretty poor job of doing anything at all... I appreciate your comments and it did remind me to remember people sometimes are unable but I also know the makority of people I talked to could have helped.
posted by: funkadelichika (reply)
post date: 03.28.08 (11:46 pm)
Reply to: James
Totally a lot of people are in it just for appearances I have been aware of that ever since way back in my christians days at youth group. Some people just joined religions to belong and don't honestly know much about them and the actual philosophies they are suppose to follow. Most of the people I talked to though I have known for many years and yet got the response of someone I thought would have been a brand new onlivious christian or one that just didn't care. That is so awesome you do religious studies in school. Is it by choice? :P It really must give you some perspective on um stuff...:P:) I always appreciate constructive honest input...
posted by: James (reply)
post date: 03.29.08 (2:47 am)
I'm agnostic, but I know a bit, as my grandfather is pretty much a deeply religious person, and he follows all of the things to the bone.
SOR is a subject I'm forced to take as I'm at a catholic school, but its not that hard, I only take a basic course, there is an advanced one though.
Well my perspective on religion is partly that it's not really often used as a good thing, people with power seem to have abused and warped the meanings given in the sacred texts etc. for hundreds of years to suit their own causes.
I find it really... Depressing that you've had to work so hard to find a place to stay while you're going through all of this stuff, and being a grassroots christian from what I've read, that there's not a single place that will accept you in this dire situation, we have a few christian refuge type places here for people in need. Can't understand why you've had to work so hard. I don't find it very fair.
posted by: Mike (reply)
post date: 03.29.08 (9:17 pm)
Hey Jen, it's mac906
It really doesn't seem right that people wouldn't help you. Especially religious people. I am Christian, but I'm really not all that religious of a person, though I would still help people if they needed the help. If there is anything I can do to help, though I'm not sure I can do much more than pray, please let me know. =)
posted by: funkadelichika (reply)
post date: 03.29.08 (10:44 pm)
Reply to: Mike Hey dude...So people from GS are actually reading this...:P Yeah It's my thought that if people can help they hold certain morals values and know of someone who needs help they should help... They don't always though... I have finally gotten some help and people can say see see you just had to be faithfull but in reality some of them could have helped me sooner and didn't...Anyways yeah...I am getting a free crib though which is cool...But yeah I know you can't do much more than read what I write give feedback and pray so that's ok. I am surprised you took the time to jump over here...But uh yeah..I go now...
posted by: Mike (reply)
post date: 03.30.08 (1:51 am)
Reply to: funkadelichika
Yeah, that's wonderfull that you'll be getting a free crib, good to hear. :) It's my pleasure to read your writing, you're an excellent writer. =)
posted by: DanC (reply)
post date: 04.01.08 (3:14 pm)
There are some right bastards (swearing wOOt!) in this world, its not easy to find the real nice people...people who really sympathise and care. But it's hard to say anything from my point of view because I haven't experienced anywhere near the brute force of bad luck that you have..so for that I suppose I should be grateful. Anyway..how close is it from arriving if I dare to ask.
Keep hanging on in there anyway, Jen..we're all thinking of you.
posted by: funkadelichika (reply)
post date: 04.01.08 (10:58 pm)
Reply to:Dan...Dan Dude you GSer's are surprising me...*tears up* Visiting this blog and all.. Um well my due date is April 20th but it could be sooner or later then that... As long as it waits until I have the crib anytime after that is fine...Maybe... I'm scared... :'(
posted by: DanC (reply)
post date: 04.03.08 (6:40 am)
You shouldn't be so suprised at all. :P
Heck that's quick though, barely over two weeks away. I hope it's a nice labour, the last one I heard about was...well..I won't say. >_>
posted by: bipolarexpress (reply)
post date: 04.17.08 (9:55 am)
i told you my reason on the "no adoption" thing.
my daughter was 2 and a half and i was in the same boat as you (at that time), i let her aunt adopt her.. it was one of the worst mistakes i have ever done.. i see my daughter all of the time. her aunt has brainwashed her and she thinks i hate her or just gave her away which wasnt the case. it hurts me to hear her call another person mommy (the same person who wanted me to abort her)and to tell that person she loves me. it was good for my daughter cause she has everything she wants and then some..
i put my daughters needs above mine.. at the time it was the right thing to do.. but im still suffering from it. i just dont want another person to feel the pain that i did and do. that is why i said no to the adoption thing. the choice is yours and yes it is a really hard one. just make sure you weigh out all the pros and cons. if you need a friend.. i'm here as long as i still have my internet.. and even if i dont.. im here for you..
posted by: funkadelichika (reply)
post date: 04.17.08 (10:04 am)
Reply to: bipolarexpress
I appreciate hearing about others experiences and it can help just to read about them. I um...Can't think of much else to say at the moment...:P Brain malfunction...:s
posted by: bipolarexpress (reply)
post date: 04.17.08 (10:35 am)
Reply to: funkadelichika
yeah, i think it's catchy.. cause im having a massive brain fart myself..lol