Lack of help from all faiths and people....
03.01.08 (4:23 pm) [edit]
Wow..Has it ever been a long time since I have been here! I still see some of the same bloggers from before. I must say though my life has changed dramatically since I last posted here. I am currently pregnant yet I will be looking into adoption. I am at probably one of the most difficult times in my life and finding that many people whether they be of a certain faith or none at all are all acting the same towards my cries for help in finding housing. No one it seems will help. I have even been semi-criticized for not being grateful for the help I do recieve via food and a few other things. I find it annoying for someone to tell me I need to be grateful and accept whatever help I get when I may not have a place to live yet I will have boxes of food. For someone to say to me"We don't always get help in exactly the way we want" I find is extremly idiotic. I am not asking for money I am not asking for all their time....I just want a secure place to live. Correct me if I am wrong but I do not think there is a substitute for something like that.... I find it sad that the lack of support I am getting from christians and anyone else is being justified by the statement or ones like it that"people have their own issues to deal with" or "no one is obligated to help you" or "help doesn't always come exactly as we want it". Give me a break people! Shoulden't we care about where our so called 'brothers and sisters' of this world are living or should we just throw some food or transportation help at them and say it's enough?
posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 03.01.08 (6:01 pm)
I do not know the intricacies of your situation. I have people who pass through here, regularly, asking for housing assistance. Frequently I am able to work with various Christian organizations to arrange temporary housing. Maybe a week. For a stranger, that is pretty generous, I think. For people who are destitute, we have shelters for the homeless in Atlanta. they are not nice and pretty, but they take care of the immediate need. Again, they are staffed, maintained, and financed by Christians. When those of our church community, who are part of the church, become desperate- we again find ways to help. We raise funds, we simply make gifts, we open our homes to them, etc. However, in this day, it would be unwise and unsafe to open one's home to a stranger. I wouldn't recommend it.
The best long-term solution for many who find themselves homeless and jobless is to connect with family. Often, pride and stubbornness keep such a person from doing this. He has had a fight with family, or is at variance over other issues, and just refuses to humble himself and ask for help from the one most likely and most willing to help.
Now, we are blessed in this area because work can be found. If a person is willing to work, and not too picky, and makes a diligent search, he or she will find work. Steady work. And with steady work she can pay her bills. Also, there are many avenues of assistance- food stamps, ADC, all kinds of church a community food and clothes closets, etc. Also, when someone makes an earnest and even half-way effort to connect with a church and become part of the church family, then the extended church family will do a lot to be of help.
Now, I'm not judging or accusing you of anything- like I say, I do not know your specifics. But I am defending the church in general, because I think we do a fairly good job of helping the truly needful. Not enough, of course.
If you care, I would sure be interested in hearing more of your story. And, it is good to have you back on t-Blog.
posted by: funkadelichika (reply)
post date: 03.01.08 (6:36 pm)
Reply to: PastorDave
I apologize if it seems like I am accusing all christians and churches of being um uncaring. I am not expecting people who don't know me to open up their homes...Rather people who do know me to offer. One has but the offer isen't a permanant solution.
I realize that the best long term solution would be family but neither my family nor my bf's could afford to take either of us in for long. His is on welfare and has 4 other kids at home. Mine can't afford it and even if they could their house is not one of much sercurity either.
Work in this area can be found. My bf is working and I am getting some money via medical ei. But the wage compared to the housing costs is astronomical here it seems. Infact in the city I live in it was recently said in our local paper that housing costs had more than doubled in the past 6or7 years. There is housing avaliable but the places that are within our price range frequently will not rent to us because they want a single person someone who is 35+ or other varying reasons.
Our town focus's heavily on seniors affordable housing and complexes. Anyways I will probably be blogging again soon so I shall see ya around this place.
posted by: nightbreed (reply)
post date: 03.01.08 (10:38 pm)
have you tired government housing??
posted by: funkadelichika (reply)
post date: 03.01.08 (11:42 pm)
Reply to: nightbreed
Uh yeah but there isen't any in this area. Seriously. There is one non profit hosuing complex but it's full...
posted by: nightbreed (reply)
post date: 03.02.08 (12:55 pm)
Reply to: funkadelichika
are there no local HUD offices around? check on the computer..they can help you get section 8 housing. you may have to wait a month or too..depends on how fast they are. if there is a local adventist church around.. they usually help (i am pagan and wear a pentacle and they still have helped me in the past)
posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 03.16.08 (12:11 am)
Will pray that you find sonthing soon, don't give up.
posted by: Kram1000 (reply)
post date: 03.21.08 (11:46 pm)
I'm not that religious but praying does seem to help.
From my own experiences in life, Often when you can't see a way out or you think this is the end something always seems to happen to resolve a situation or let you go a little further then a little more further. Just don't give up and stay true to your heart. Try and look at the people you are associating with. Often when I felt lost my friends would encourage me and somehow i would get through.
I know its boring but try and keep some stable people around you.
If you feel depressed don't let it get on top of you, go see a doctor.
Lastly don't listen to me because what would an old fart know anyway? LOL
Good luck. I know things will work out one way or another. your not dumb as your writing is very structured so you should be able to sort things out.