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So I just can't stop thinking about how I was told that my approach to finding help may have been wrong or offensive in some way. That the way I was asking for help may have seemed pushy like I expected people to help but should not have expected anything. Well I just can't get over being criticized for expecting help from people who can help.

You can't expect all the times you help people to be little fairy tales of fun and excitement. Real people with real emotional mental and other issues may come to you for help and you may turn them away because of they way they act towards you for a minute or because they expect you to help?

 I just cannot get over some of the twisted logic I have seen from the comments left on my blog from people who profess faith in something yet then add on their own little twist.

You may be thinking..."I guess this person still hasen't found housing." No I actually have thank you but that doesn't mean I will automatically stop talking about some of the comments I received which bugged me regarding the issue.

I just can't stop thinking about this and how dissapointed I am in people in general for criticizing someone who just wanted help finding housing...I didn't ask for money or free food...Just help to find a suitable place for me and my baby and our soon to be family...But apparently my approach sucked or people are against families nowadays... 

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You know christians sing a funny tune sometimes. Then again most of humankind are like that. Didn't jesus say"Love God,Love others and Love yourself."? Love yourself being last? So what should be done when someone is in need and you can provide? Should you think of a way it can work...? Or worry about yourself and how much of a hit your pocketbook will take? Or any other number of scenarios that could happen.

 You can say like many have said here and elsewhere to me that no one is obligated...People have to watch out for themselves etc. But is that what jesus would have told us to do? If jesus was like people nowadays would he have fed people like he did by multiplying those fish and that bread in the bible? Probably not. If he was like people and christians now he would stop and think a few differen't things..."These people look a little shifty...I don't know about them they may hurt my diciples... I am not obligated to help them.... Why feed them? Who knows how greatfull they will actually be?.."

Yes I am aware that people aren't perfect. But how long can you use that as an excuse aswell? If you have an opportunity to help and don't and continue to pass up opportunities to help people and keep on making excuses can you then say people aren't perfect? Do people who have a seemingly bad attitude deserve less respect and less help then those who are happy go lucky? Do you consider that these people with a so called 'chip on their shoulder' have probably been through much more than many people can imagine and are just getting completly worn down? They may not have the energy anymore for all the pleasantries and because you see them as rude or some other thing you choose not to help them even though they are obviously in need.

Did jesus say only help those who are pleasant to you? Did he say help only those who look nice and clean and favorable? Did he say don't go to far out of your way to help after all you need to look after yourself?

Think about what you are saying to others and about what your own bible says about how you are to treat others and what your actions are to show. No I am not a christian but I use to be and am well aware of the message jesus preached.

Just think about replying here before you rant about how people have to be more careful nowadays. I do value the comments but would like people to take some time and think about what I type here rather than jumping right away to defending themselves.

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This is my blog. I have my opinions some of which may be wrong.Some of which may be right. Some which just need to be thought upon. Maybe people come by here read a post respond without taking time to think and never come back. That's their choice. I just felt like saying that before doing my actual blog post. I noticed the past few days that out of all the people I have been asking for help there have been some interesting correlations... People that were not willing to spend time helping me but instead criticizing me or helping me in ways that really weren't helpfull in the long run were also the ones who thought that adoption was a good idea... The ones the few who have tried to help are the ones who are less open to the idea of adoption at least in my case.... This doesn't neccesarily mean anything just an observation. Something else I was thinking on was how a lot of people were telling me I shoulden't expect anyone to help me. Meaning they weren't obligated and they had their own things to look after etc... Specifically I would be mentioning christians and how I wasen't getting help with housing. And in return people on the net and people I talked to would say they didn't have to help me... I can't believe I heard this coming out of peoples mouths...Crhistians mouths...Did jesus not help certain people becuase they may have been a danger to him or his followers? Didn't jesus say "Love God, love others,love yourself...? Doesn't loving others mean helping them? Not treating them like all the other organizations have and just pass them onto the next person? Seriously I have felt like a leper the past few months. The way people have dealt with me talked to me has made me feel like an outcast abd made me feel worht little to nothing.Now you can say maybe I was approaching them rudley or whatever that I needed a better attitude a different apporach... Maybe the people turing me away need a new attitude. Don't you realize by not helping people whom you think have a 'bad attitude' could result in you yourself not receiving help in the future from them if needed? In the future if someone asks me for help but I don't like the way they are asking or am somewhat leary about them can I say to them"I'm not obligated to help you?" Would that be right? Would that be fair? Would that be something I would do? No I don't think it would be. If I can help people and am asked for help I do help in whatever way I can. Even if it may set me back a bit... That's it for now I think. Just felt like typing a bit of my thoughts of the past few days.

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Just a very short update. I don't know if I mentioed before having the possibility of going to a transition house for a little bit.... Well if I go to a transition house..my boyfriend won't be able to be there...At all. Because the transition house is maninly for women escaping abusive relationships. If I was to keep the child I could go there but it's father coulden't even visit... No one is suppose to know where the place is unless they work or stay there... However I was informed that the people there like a social worker or whatever may have some sort of advice to help me. Anyways that's it... Another nail in the coffin it seems but oh well...

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Still no help. I will most likely end up going to a transition house after I give birth to my child... Which isen't much better then where I am now. The transition house is mainly for women who are "escaping" from bad relationships drugs etc...I merely need a place to raise my child safe and secure...That looks like it isen't happening. I contacted yet another few places.... Still no one sitting down with me to see what can be down...Just passing along the line like always. I got a list of all the apartment complexes in my city.... However it is like 7 years out of date so it was pretty much useless. I tried calling more than half the places on the list. The vast majorities were wrong numbers or not in service. The ones I did reach had no openings or were 'age restricted' What a sad society. I would care for my child fine...If I had the housing. Yet there are people out there who for various reasons really shoulden't be raising children yet they do.

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